Thursday, November 27, 2008

Are we going to be mere bystanders?

http://thatinnervoice.blogspot.com/2008/07/triggering-memories-blasts-and-more.html

Its hardly been four months since I wrote that piece. Dejavu, as a reporter puts it. Sad. Yet true. Memories from that day are fresh. And to think Ahmadabad, Surat, Jaipur and Delhi - all four cities came under attacks in these four months makes me ask yet again - what next?

It took a few minutes of 'sitting in front of the TV', for the current crisis to sink in. Almost 24 hours after the drama unfolded, here I am miles away from ground zero, stuck with terror. And my first reaction is anger. But anger against whom? I don't have an answer to that question. Should I point it at those across the border? or should I think proverbially that when I point a finger in that direction, four others are pointing towards my own home? or wait, Am I responsible too? Am I contributing to this by not being there to stop it all?

I was just talking to someone whom I hold dearest in my heart. He hints at re-aligning his career interests to become an IPS officer. Spur of the moment? You may think. But we are talking about someone who has already left a lucrative career in the US to hole up in New Delhi, preparing for his Civil services examination. So lets not question his genuineness. But what am I doing here? I know I have missed the bus when it comes to civil services. How else can I chip in? What are you going to do about this? Cant we collectively do some damn thing about this? Time and again, almost every month, we go through this phase of emotions that range from remorse to anger to collective panic. But we choose to ignore it, undermine it, blame it and then at the end, forget it. All until it comes back to haunt us with an evil smirk on its ugly face!

What are we going to do? Are we going to be mere bystanders? Or are we going to try and make a difference?

Friday, July 25, 2008

Triggering memories, blasts and more

08:00 hours
Tuesday morning was as calm as ever. Nothing out of the ordinary. After a hasty breakfast and a ten minute car ride, we found ourselves at a workplace that was slowly shaking off the Monday blues. People were still stirring themselves out of a lazy late summer morning. The routine was setting in.

09:00 hours
Full office. Not that it mattered, we were only about twenty. Work in full flow. There was some restlessness in the cubicle next to mine. I peered in and Sheriff was digging his nose deeper into CNN.com. A blast in New york? Confirmed reports? "No, not a blast, its an airline crash right in the middle of the city." If that didn't shake up the rest of us, the next piece of news did. "It is a suspected terrorist attack on the WTC..." What unfolded in the next few minutes will remain in memory for ever, although right from that minute till now, I have a strange feeling of detachment towards the whole thing. Two crashes and there was no TV to follow the news. We piled into a car and drove off to my friend's place. And most of the time, no one spoke. The newsman's voice resounded in the apartment.

10:00 hours
We drove home, me and my roomie. Mom was home alone. Ofcourse, she was blissful in her own world, having heard or seen nothing about the incidents on TV. We broke the news, called home to assure all is well. Enquired about friends and made sure they were not in the vicinity. There was confusion all around and we decided not to venture out in any case.

The rest of the day, and the next couple of days, were spent in relative silence. Still recovering from the news. A strange eerie silence loomed at the workplace. No one payed Foosball. No lunch room discussions. Then things slowly got back to normal.

15:00 hours, 7 years later.
Last year, I was in Hyderabad. Blasts ripped through a crowded chaat place and a park. Terrorism was showing its global presence. Yet again, what followed was very similar to what happened on 11th September 2001.

And today nothing was different. Bangalore was rocked by serial blasts. First reports came over phone. Then the Internet. Two blasts. No it was three according to someone else. The count slowly went up to seven. Blasts in the heart of the city. In areas where I was roaming around a day or two ago. One right next to where I was put up temporarily. People caught in two minds. "Should I go home?" many were still asking as I wrote this. Whats a safe route? Which way to go? Where were the blasts? Are friends alright? Moms calling their children, however grown up they were. Friends checking on friends. Disturbed minds were loitering around the corridors not knowing what to do next. Will there be more? Hope not! Then as the minutes ticked, people slipped out of office. The same eerie silence descended once again.

15:30 hours
The sun is already going down. There is a cloud cover, not just over the city, but in the hearts of its dwellers as well... what next?

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Why is it?

Why is it that I cherish every moment?
Why is it that I yearn for more and more?
Why is it that I lost out on all that today?
Why is it that I wish today didnt happen?
Why is it that I fail to understand?
Why is it that I am never understood?
Why is it that I despair at this hour?
Why is it that I dont like this very minute?
Why is it that I dont want time to run?
Why is it that I also want time to gallop?
Why is it that I suffer in silence?
Why is it that I want to let it out?
Why is it that I am at work at this hour?
Why is it that I dont want to go home?
Why is it that I fear tommorow?
Why is it that I wish tommorow comes today?
Why is it that I bring my walls up?
Why is it that I dont want to let the walls down?
Why is it that I want to be stubborn this time?
Why is it that I also want to flex limits?
Why is it that I wait for the weekend?
Why is it that I wish I didnt have to wait for the weekend?
Why is it that I think today could have been better?
Why is it that I am glad it wasnt worse?
Why is it that I know exactly what I want?
Why is it that I have no clue what I really want?
Why is it? just why is it?

waqt...

Bolte hai ki baat jab muhse nikalti hai, woh kamaan se nikle hue teer ke samaan hothi hai.
Teer ke ghaav aur baton se hue ghaav ko bhara ja saktha hai...
Lekin aaj jo waqt ghava diya, use kaun louta saktha hai?! Can you?

Friday, July 11, 2008

Here I come!

"I know I have turned a corner in my life. My life will never be the same again."

Different readers can derive different meanings from that sentence. Some might think I am referring to a new job I landed some weeks ago. Some might think I am talking about my move to a city which I always thought was my place to be for at least the next few years. For some, it would mean this past birthday, where the number that represents my age was somewhat significant, at least in their eyes. For some, it would mean my new bike, which I am sure will soon be nothing short of an extension of my actual self. And yet for some others, it would mean something else. For me though, it means everything anyone can ever imagine and a bit more.

And to think that its all just a week away does make it an exhilarating time. And to think that the days spent in anticipation are growing shorter than longer is good news. And to think the week will actually be shorter than a week (wink wink!), means the moment has finally arrived...

Life! Here I come!

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Ode to spring...

The first born from nature's womb, beauty personifies thine name;
The epitome of love and sweet fragrant youth, thou, for ever, shall rule my heart.

Born with thou are thy colours, once forgotten, lost in the white;
That new born green ever so shy, thy only envy? That blushing red on my lady's cheek;

Those sounds of silence seem so distant, mirthy chirps fill the scapes;
Unheard melodies I do hear, strung from thy harp signaling thine arrival.

The smell of grass, that crispy air, the touch of rain, all sublime;
How I wait to take a dip, in that stream, that potion of love;

The world is lost in thy grandeur, cast in a spell, knowing no time;
So much so that the sun stays longer, to gaze away, to smile away, to bless away.

Born with thou are our lives, with new fortunes, with new promise,
Oh the first born from nature's womb, may you live for years to come...

Monday, July 7, 2008

Socrates series part 4 - The zillion piece jigsaw puzzle

Think about it... A zillion pieces in a jigsaw puzzle! You wanna say "wow!"?? - Go on... yeah really... go on and say it aloud, a zillion times!

How much time do you think an average human will take to assemble a 1000 piece jigsaw? Maybe a week? Give or take one or two days? So in a year, an average of 50 such puzzles? And in a lifetime of 80 years, we say 4000 puzzles? Which then means 4 million pieces put together? Hmmm... so how will one ever find the time to put together a puzzle that has a zillion pieces?

Lets up the ante a little bit over here. How about putting something together while you have no idea, whatsoever, as to how it looks? You have no picture to refer to, no clues, no hints and no 'how-to's. All you have is some vague piece of historical data, part of which is what you yourself build over time. Oh talking about time, yeah, you do have a time limit, its a race against time. And to make it worse, you don't even know how many pieces exist in the puzzle or what portion of the puzzle is yet to be pieced together. And finally, you wont even know when you get it right. But you will certainly know when you get it wrong!

The puzzle I am talking about is what others call “Life”. You have no idea whats in store, whats to come or what it should/would look like from a distance. You wont know how big it is or how small it is, you wont know whether you succeeded or failed in the big picture of things or you wont even know if you would even put it all together when the time expires.

Its that puzzle where the little pieces that you need to stitch together could be the people you come across, the relationships you build., your like/dislikes, your emotions, your dreams, your failures, your success, you habits, your vices, your love, your hatred, the places you visit, the little pieces of wisdom you pick up, your spiritual side or the realization you get when you indulge in introspection. Ans that is only the tip of the iceberg.

When things are smooth and you make progress fitting it all in, you would think life is all good. You think that it all makes sense. Sometimes you don't even have the time to realize that things are good, you fail to notice it. And when the going gets tough, when some pieces of the puzzle look similar and you have no idea which one to pick or you find that a piece goes missing, all hell breaks loose. Things go astray and you want to redo it all! Yeah thats what I am talking about.

The biggest part which people fail to notice is that their puzzles are all actually interlinked. Yours is in someway linked to mine which is in someway is linked to my friends' or sometimes that guy on the street. This is an upside people don't see and often feel beaten when they set out to solve the puzzle on their own. They forget about working together. Yes, they do know this part that their lives are intertwined, but then they fail to look beyond and realize that they cant find a meaning to their life on their own and it has to be a joint effort.

This is profound especially when the piece of the puzzle under discussion, or in simpler terms, the person under discussion happens to be the special someone. That piece then becomes the equivalent of a keystone and the entirety or completeness of the puzzle wholly depends on this one piece and how it relates to all the other zillion pieces. When the two people involved set out to solve the puzzle together, step alongside step, all of a sudden it isn't so mystifying. The same can be said about the pieces that represent the near and dear ones or even the common dreams that people share, however with a slightly lesser intensity.


But at the end of the day, when you do realize that its a puzzle and when you realize its only a matter of time before things fall in place and if you work towards it in the right company, albeit in a trial and error fashion, more often than not, you will succeed.

Friday, July 4, 2008

Socrates series part 3 - So why worry?

Ever wondered how we sometimes expect certain situations to unfold out of the blue? With very little warning, to catch us unaware? We then sweat it, work ourselves up and prepare to face it. We think of possible ways to thwart it or possible ways to work around it. We get ready and as we wait for it with bated breath, time suddenly decides to slow its pace and we continue to wait. Ironically, we thought the situation would catch us unprepared, and now here we are waiting to 'take care' of the unknown. We sit tight, like local militia waiting to ambush a passing enemy convoy, which, in the first place was supposed to be launching a surprise attack!

As the wait grows longer, we grow weary. We let our guards down. Things seem to be fizzling down. We tell ourselves “hey, it will never happen and even if it were to, arent we prepared?”. And most often, we drop back into our routine and nothing ever really happens. But then....

There are times when things take a turn. The situation presents itself without a warning, sometimes waiting for you at the gate peering into you with curios eyes. It accosts you, greets you and takes you by complete surprise. And our reaction is almost involuntary. We 'react' as against the 'actions' we decided to engage upon if that situation was to occur. We do something at the spur of the moment and get away with it. Hardly do we get into situations that warrants a wrinkled forehead some days or weeks ahead and even if we do get into those situations, hardly do the preparations come into play. So why worry?

Thursday, July 3, 2008

Song of the hour

"Oh butterfly...butterfly...
yEn viriththaai siragai..va va (Oh butterfly)
arugil nee varuvaayO
unakkaaga thirandhEn manadhin kadhavai..."

A song I have been 'humming' lately... wonder why ;)

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

"If I were to search" a.k.a "Little did I know"

If I were to search for an adjective:

"Beatific, beatified, blissful, connubial, delightful, ecstatic, Edenic, elysian, enchanted, felicific, felicitous, halcyon, paradisiacal, rapturous, transported"

If I were to search for a noun:

"Beatitude, contentment, delight, ecstasy, eden, elysium, euphoria, felicity, gladden, gladness, glory, happiness, heaven, joy, joyfulness, jubilation, nirvana, paradise, pleasure, rapture, transport, utopia, blessedness, cheer, cheerfulness, festivity, frivolity, gaiety, glee, jollity, joyousness, levity, merriment"

Conclusion: There is no end.
Courtesy: Dictionary.com.

Friday, June 27, 2008

Sitting on the moon...

I am sitting on the moon, waiting for you;
For us to walk hand in hand across the evening skies;
The stars will be the footprints we leave behind;
And as the east turns red, we shall be back on land, as quite as we left;
The footprints shall vanish, with a flicker of your eyelids...
Only for us to make more of them when night decends again.

Chaand ke us paar kya hai?

Chaand ke us paar kya hai?
Na kisi ne dehka hai, na kisi ko patha hai.
Par chaand ko is baat se koi dikkat nahi;
Usko tho patha hai; Uski zindagi ki jo sooraj hai..
Woh chaand ko poori tarah se pehchaantha hai!

Kash...


Not much was spoken

Silence was broken; It was just one call.
One word spoken, a cuckoo's song?
And there came an asnwer -
From somewhere unknown, some place unseen;
Not much was spoken; but the call answered.

Darkness was quelled; It was the first ray.
One streak of light, searching for its colours?
And there came an answer -
The bud had bloomed, its face vibrant;
Not much was spoken; but the rays found colour;

Gloom lay conquered; It was a heart's voice.
One tired mind, Weary eyes searching for sleep?
And there came an asnwer -
It brought warmth; and a touch of calm;
Not much was spoken; but I found my smile.

Note: Brickbats are welcome.

Ants!

Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night with this premonition that ants are gonna take over the world? Marching out in huge numbers - those silent assassins? Remember those cartoons with ants marching out in columns with helmets and rifles? Yeah thats what I am talking about!

Sounds weird? Ants?? Of all things you might think? Well I have experienced something similar. But not quite to the same scale - thanks to my relatively clean(errr.. ) den, and what with George the second hanging around, the world seems a little safer afterall. I have woken up to the tingling sensation of ants scurrying hither and thither. Espionage? Agents? And everytime I peered into them eye-to-eye, they will stop, try their hand at camouflage, sometimes quite successfully and as my eyes fall into a daze, they perk up and scurry faster. So what are they upto? A pre-emptive attack? "Oh comeon, dont be ridiculous" I cried "I dont have sugar crystals (read nuclear warheads) hidden in my shirt pocket!"

Turns out that they just use my den as their base in the far east... oops... as a resting place during the day. And they march out into the night when its cooler in search of prey. I tried to follow them out, but too bad I dont have spiderman skills to climb down walls and neither do I want my neighbours to think I am a peeping tom! So I decided to follow them when they get back in... smart eh?! I saw them skirt around my bed (wait wait wait no skirts lying around on my bed), which happens to be right next to the window, and run across the wall into a stack of storage boxes... And while they do it, some stray, lose their way, find me and perhaps look into my eyes thinking I may lead them?!

Ah well, I moved my bed away from the window now!

Monday, June 23, 2008

Monday morning greens


Saturday, June 21, 2008

What happened to the trinity? Lets have a chat.

Vidhyasankar: India routed Pak today in an ODI, I heard. How was the match? Did you watch it live?
me: Good match man. Didnt watch it totally. Some IPL power I guess.
Vidhyasankar: Yeah definitely
me
: Saw parts of it; was at work
Vidhyasankar: Ok
me: Did u see the line up? people cud bat till #9/10.
Vidhyasankar: Nope..
me: #9 was Praveen Kumar; #10 was Chawla. It was a loaded line up; except Ishant actually.
Vidhyasankar: What happened to the trinity?
me: Gone! Ganguly n Rahul dropped
Vidhyasankar: Sad...
me: Sachin groin injury; iIts a shame they arent playing
Vidhyasankar: oh
me: People are scared that if they get a chance, it wud be a problem again; They will play for sure.
Vidhyasankar: They'll
me: And then cause more issues to selectors; So now they just dont pick them and make it easy for themselves - damn selector idiots
Vidhyasankar: Dravid has lost confidence on himself, I believe so
me: Well its a matter of time da
Vidhyasankar: I saw his few inns in test matches... that was not the usual Dravid
me: Sachin they arent dropping only because it will cause riots across the whole country; Yeah - Rahul is out of form, but doesnt mean he cant make it back; But these guys wont give him a chance.
Vidhyasankar: Yeah; now, competition is high; 11000 people are vying for 11 slots
me: hmmm...after IPL even more
Vidhyasankar: But its gud
me: Yes ofcourse.
Vidhyasankar: Cricket is winning at the end of the day
me: As long as they treat the trinity with some respect
Vidhyasankar: Yes, they'll be respected..
me: Hopefully!
Vidhyasankar: See, none of the so called young players will be as successful as the trinity in testing conditions.
me: Absolutely
Vidhyasankar: Excluding the trinity and Laxman, jus pick up a test team now; you'll not be able to
me: We will see who stands the test of time
Vidhyasankar: Yeah...did you see one thing? even Aussies are losing strength
me: Yeah, I saw that
Vidhyasankar: I just checked the AUS v WI test scorecard; AUS hav really struggled
me: But you know what - once they play for a year or so - their young guns will be well trained and the team will be back to the fore
Vidhyasankar: Yes, thats true
me: They have the capability to adapt to change; Not sure if india can withstand the loss of the biggies; we will see
Vidhyasankar: But, the quality of cricket is lost forever
me: We were fortunate. we should say, to be among the days where the trinity and true cricket ruled
Vidhyasankar: Now cricket is also like cinema; only an entertainment factor
me: We will be the last to say we saw Saurav, Sachin, Rahul and Laxman destroy the mighty Aussies; and almost in both continents
Vidhyasankar: Yes...absolutely.We were so fortunate to see players like Sachin, Lara, Saurav, Dravid and Kallis in their prime
me: And live too - remember those India-Aus or India-pak matches at MAC?
me: and dont forget Kumble! That man can never be replaced.
Vidhyasankar: yes.. I agree
me: Our bowling department can never produce another Kumble
Vidhyasankar: Played with true spirit; Not only that never say die part - the attitude, hard work - nobody can replace him.
me: The big 5 I should say then. When we lose them - we almost have - its going to be a blow to the quality of Indian cricket
Vidhyasankar: Test cricket is nearing its end...
me: Its not always about winning. Its a lot more than that.
Vidhyasankar: ODI's anybody's game
me: Then think of 20-20... its a joke!
Vidhyasankar: But now I doubt, whether T20 people will be able to play full 50 overs in an ODI :-)
me: Trust me, I have the same feeling; Rohit sharma might be an exception
Vidhyasankar: Yeah... I was about to mention him and Raina...they are actually class players.
me: Uthappa and Yusuf pathan will lose their way, its not abt hitting all through.

Vidhyasankar: They need to be groomed properly
me
: Rohit is my only hope after Rahul. To make it successfully into the test arena and stay there.


Well, who will stay, who will succeed? Time will tell. But what happened to the trinity? I want them back!

Maybe I won us the games ;) - The 20-20 hindsight.

Well, the kings did make it to the finals didnt they? And I lost concentration and gave up hope for that one last ball and we all know the rest of the story. I just felt obligated to explain the loss. And dont worry! There is the champions league and the crown shall be ours!!

Go Chennai!! Go Super Kings!!

Socrates series part 2 - Feel it in you?

"Thoughts are vital, living things, little bundles of energy, if you will" said Julian. Perhaps he was ruing the sale of his Ferrari? or was it perhaps Robin speaking in Julian's voice? Whatever it is, I have come to believe that thoughts have as much life as I have left in me. They are born, they live and they die... well, some, live on.

If thoughts can be living entities in spite of their intangible nature, well then, what about feelings? You 'feel' a certain way because a certain event has occurred which has brought about that feeling in you. Which then goes on to say that the feeling was born right there and then. The feeling lives on until some other feeling overtakes you for the time being or until a subsequent event erases that particular feeling and permanently replaces it with a fresh one. So then feelings die as well.

A subtlety here is that, unlike thoughts, the feelings when dead, don't come back alive. Let me explain. An unpleasant event occurs. It brings a negative feeling in you. You might hold anger or might feel sad. You live through it. The weather changes, good times arrive and a pleasant, positive feeling replaces that negative feeling that was in you. So years later, or even in a matter of hours, you replace anger with love. The feeling of anger is now dead and it wont come back alive unless a new negative event is to occur. This then means that the thought may persist that you were once angry. It may live on. But you wont feel the anger anymore, for now, it has turned into love. Get the point?

But what warrants considering feelings as living things? In a way, you can effectively replace the word 'feeling' with 'emotion'. And these feelings or the emotions are the ways in which we react to events. We get pregnant with the thoughts and we give birth to the emotions. Some see the day of light. Some die deep in the darkness. They don't have an absolute form and can take their own shape at will. But then so is the case with the other life forms on earth as well. Isn't it? Not all animals look the same, not all humans are the same, and for that matter, not all bacteria are the same. They adapt to their surroundings, they develop their own unique nature. So are our feelings. Not all people feel the same way about something, nor does one feel the same way about the same event occurring at different points of his/her life. So is that comparison proof enough?

What about the nature of these emotions themselves?

From a 30,000 foot level, there are those that make you feel good and those that make you feel bad. Dive a little deeper, you can see patterns or colours. You see those that are born out of an event and those born out of nowhere. Some explainable and others baffling. Some that are ephemeral and some that are everlasting. Some that flow and some that stand still.

Sometimes I compare emotions to dimensions We have X, Y and Z dimensions. We have time as a dimension. That is in the universe we live in. And in the parallel universe that our emotions live in, we can say the emotions themselves constitute the dimensions. And where you position yourself in a relationship or a situation or even when it comes to self-appraisal, it all depends on where you see yourself in this multi-dimensional universe constructed out of those emotions.

I am sure we can even trace a hereditary pattern to these emotions. Some give birth to others and the child carries with it, traits of the parent. Like for example. frustration and irritation. We get frustrated due to some event, or the non-occurrence of an event. Which then leads to irritation. And the common trait? restlessness and a sullen mood. Howver, let me quickly point out that I am yet to figure out the family chart for these emotions. Some may be cousins, and some might share a mother-daughter relationship.

Phew! I can go on and on and on. But here is the question that triggered this outburst you just read through - "Whats more powerful? Feeling the presence? or feeling the absence?"

I am yet to find an answer....

Thursday, May 8, 2008

Maybe, I won us the games ;)

What games? Both IPL T20s. The latest one? Kings triumph over the Daredevils. My bro was on the phone, basically saying “so, we lose, yet again”. That was after Dhoni and Kapugedara (Ok, I cant get that name right ever) were out caught off successive balls. That meant Goni and Badrinath on the field, two new batsmen. But I had seen them bat before and got this feeling that we were gonna win today. I told my brother “Dude, we are winning”. I wasn’t just saying it for the heck of it, I was calm, smiling, super-confident and in fact, it seemed like they had already won.

6 balls & 15 runs. I tell my mom, “six over midwicket”… if you think about it, its not gonna take much to guess that its going to be over midwicket. But then, I somehow knew! I wasn’t guessing. And the first ball sails over midwicket. Then I say “four over the bowlers head”. It was four alright – but behind the keeper. But where was Goni heaving it? Straight behind the bowler. I knew I was having an effect on the game and all I had to do was think positive! I answered my bro’s call.. “Sonnomillaaa…..”

That by the way was not the first game. The first one where I had a telling effect was against RCB. We hadn’t put up a huge total on the board and the way the game was progressing, with Taylor flaying us all around, it wasn’t a pleasant sight. But all along, I kept telling my roomie (who happens to be a RCB fan and was mocking me) that it was a matter of time. Then it happened. The prophecies came forth. Every time I stood up, hands on my sides, confident that the next ball would be a wicket – Lo and behold! There it was! Four wickets in a row… and RCB were reeling. And yeah, every single time, I knew there was gonna be a wicket off that very ball. The prophecies had come true. The next morning, I put up a poster next to my cubicle.

So then, maybe the Chennai super kings need to look outside their squad for a winning hand. And hey, they don’t need to worry, I will be right here.

By the way, I realized that the games that we lost, I had lost my poise - was down with CP and wasn’t concentrating. Let’s pray I don’t do that again ;)

Go Chennai!! (That’s what my poster reads).

Monday, May 5, 2008

Kaani nilam vendum...

Nestled somewhere in southern Tamil Nadu, on the banks of one of Cauvery’s distributaries, imagine a small rustic village. The river gushing past with a lazy elegance, the water fresh and sparkling - showing no signs of the long tiring journey. Lush green fields envelop the village in perfect contrast to the red of the evening sky. The temple bells ringing and birds roosting noisily to announce the sunset. The village slowly winding down to a halt for the night. A little wooden bridge across the stream is crowded with kids lining up for a dive and a dip into the river before they are summoned back home.

This village could very well be my dad’s native place, near Kumbakonam. I have been there a few times. And every time I was there I brought back memories. Memories of the river, the fields, the streets, the people and the temples – There is a famous Amman kovil there. We still have some people we know out there. Not relatives – some long standing friends. And in the last 6 years perhaps they moved out too – leaving behind nothing but memories of that beautiful place. But then there is something I come across often in my life that reminds me of this place. What is this something? You will know as you read on.

Out in a corner, right by the fields is a small farm house with tiled roof and pillared halls. Standing next to a well, the water as sweet as the water from the tender coconuts from the trees lining the garden. Ten or twelve of them standing in rows. A little coir cot lying amidst those trees. A breeze strong enough to carry with it the fragrance from the nearby jasmine gardens. One could hear the cuckoo’s solitary call above all the hubbub. Is he searching for his mate? Oh wait! There are two of them calling out to each other!
My great-grandpa’s house used to be on the main street. A house that stretched out to a little stream being fed by the Cauvery. If one was to peep in to the front door, he would see corridors and hallways – all the doors in a straight line – leading out to the back yard. There were granite pyols on either side of the front door. I would love to lie down on those pyols lazily gawking at the street vendors and school kids walking up and down the street all afternoon. The backyard was full of coconut trees climbing into the sky and all I had to do was to walk a little further to get a dip into the stream. I don’t recall it much, neither do I have photographs of that house – all I have is a vague mental image of what I saw years and years ago.

A faint odor of smoke is lingering in the air. The sun is down and the village is immersed in darkness. Only briefly. And as the clouds scatter, a far more brilliant light – one that’s as white as a new born pearl fills the expanse. The moon, is shining in all its splendor. A man and his wife are talking a different language out there – a language of smiles and meaningful glances - as they go over their dinner on that coir cot out in the open. A language of love and sharing. In a blissful state, they talk, laugh and sing together – oblivious to the surroundings – unknowingly creating the sweetest of memories – a story they will tell their children and grand children from nothing but memory. This would be a tale of two people – a tale of love. Zoom out slowly and you see these lovers, the house, the farms - this perfect setting and in the back ground you could see the temple gopuram towering over the village offering that unfailing sense of security and reassurance. A dream realised!

Whose dream? Your dream! My dream! Everyone’s dream! That day – the day when the dream comes true - I will look into the sky and will search for a star caller Bharati – and tell him - “Don’t worry sir – your dream has been realised”.

It is this dream in the form of a song that keeps my memories fresh. For those who wonder what this dream is or what the song is – here it is.

“Kaani nilam vendum, parasakthi kaani nilam vendum,
Angu thoonil azhagiyathai nanmaadangal thuyya nirathinavai,
Andha kaani nilathidaiye ore maaligai katti thara vendum,
Angu keni aruginile thennai maram keetrum ilaneerum.

Pathu pannirendu thennai maram adhan pakathile vendum,
Nalla muthu chudar pole nila oli munbu vara vendum,
angu kathum kuyil osai satre vandu kaadhil pada vendum,
endhan chitham magizhnthidave nanraay ilam thendral vara vendum.

Paatu kalanthidave ange oru pathini pen vendum,
engal kootu kaliyinile kavithaigal kondu thara vendum,
Andha kaatu veliyinile amma ninthan kaaval ura vendum,
entha paattu thirathaale ivvaiyathai paalithidavendum.

Kaani nilam vendum, parasakthi kaani nilam vendum!!”

Sunday, May 4, 2008

Spare them a thought! (aka Kingfisher girls)

I was sitting idle on a sleepy afternoon at work. My colleague was busy booking his tickets for some official trip he was making the following week. His eyes lit up as the HR came by and said his tickets were booked. No, the lighting up was not just for the tickets. There was more.


One other evening as I was discussing my weekend plans with a friend. She was particular about finding out which airline I was taking. I happened to mention which one and a seemingly meaningful grin broke out – more of an all-knowing smirk.


On both occasions, the airline carrier was none other than kingfisher. Get the point? If you don’t, let me clarify. It didn’t matter that they were a premier airline or the only first class airlines in India, neither was it about the service they render. It wasn’t about the frequencies or the routes they fly. Nah, it wasn’t about Vijay Malya either. And if you are into the IPL frenzy, it’s not even about being an RCB fan. It transcends all these materialistic pleasures.


So then what is it? Ah come on! As if you didn’t know! It’s about the beauties in red. Scampering about in their short skirts and high heels, swarming all over the airport, and not to mention, onboard the flights as well. In the best of their make-up, sometimes putting to shame even the queens from Bollywood.


Ok, may be I am being a bit hypocritical here. I used the word beauties, which goes to say I have glanced at them as well. It also goes to say I do behold that beauty, but then I think one needs to draw a line somewhere. Just as there is a huge difference between a casual glance and what we call ogling, there is also a huge difference between being presentable or pleasing to the eye and being a glamour doll.


No, I am not blaming those girls for what nature bestowed upon them. Neither am I blaming them for playing the role of an exhibitionist that they have been commissioned to do. One can’t blame them for a profession they choose among others. On the contrary, I come out in their defense. I am asking the men to spare a thought and let them be. I am blaming the airline companies for putting them on the spot. And I am blaming the men onboard a flight who make them all the more self-conscious. Yeah, some of them girls revel in that spotlight, but hey, I bet I see more expressions of embarrassment on their faces than expressions of pride.


Imagine the early morning flights between two metros. The flights typically carry 90% men. That’s an understatement when talking about the ratio of men to women on these flights. And Imagine 80% of them staring down the aisle at the two girls making their way down serving the morning coffee. That would make me squirm in my seat, let alone the girl who knows every inch of her is being watched.


I talked about ogling earlier didn’t I? Well, as in all cases, if there seems to be that mutual interest, I have no issues. He came, he saw, he conquered (the heart) types. But in most cases, why would some men think something can spark mid air, thirty thousand feet above sea level when it doesn’t click on solid earth? Just because they got that courtesy smile from her? The ogling is followed by a barrage of beeps asking for personal favors. Anything from an extra bottle of water, which in most cases remain unopened, to the utterly unneeded question– “how much longer is the flight?” Oh for god’s sake the whole flight doesn’t last an hour! They want to strike a conversation. Age no bar, Class no bar. And the girls just have no choice than to be accommodating. The best they can do is to throw hints which are never picked up and if picked up, ignored.


We can’t blame the men either can we? Yes they play the active antagonists in this case. But then the instigation perhaps comes from the culture which unfortunately encompasses the skirts, high heels and the sweet words. Very few spare a moment to think of what the girl might feel when she is being stared at, from head to toe. They then go on vying with one another for every little bit of attention she can shower upon her. For them, it’s an hour’s flight, there is beauty to be enjoyed and they will do just that – be it within or beyond the moral or ethical bounds.


So who exactly is to be blamed then? The airline companies perhaps? Yes I spoke about Kingfisher alone, but you must be grossly mistaken if you were to think that’s the only big fish in this pool. I wonder what justifies the airline companies to do the cost cutting on the food or beverages served onboard; while they might go on to pay the big bucks to the girls to deter them from joining the competitor. Isn’t it supposed to be a better way to attract customers with service rather than glamour dolls? But wait, does the public prefer the later?


This is a chicken and egg problem. And the ones who get the raw deal in the end are some of those girls who don’t necessarily want to be part of it all, but are in it since they have no options. Spare them a thought oh mighty men!

Socrates series – part 1. The Onion philosophy.

Life inherits a lot from the onion. They must have shared the same genetic pattern I guess. Or why else would there be such a striking similarity?

This thought occurred to me a few months ago over a casual lunch. I was having onion dosa, perhaps all by myself on a loaded workday. Yeah yeah… a lunch with myself! I need to get a life isn’t? But wait! Had that not happened, I would never have discovered that my life shared its genes with the very onion I was eating.

Okay, for those bemused, let me explain. At some point of time, in every one of us, a thought might have crossed our mind. What are we doing here? What is the purpose of life? What is life? Right fellas? Or if the thought hasn’t occurred to you yet, then trust me, those questions will come up – most probably on the eve of your 25th or 38th or the 53rd birthday. When it does, some of us might set out on a journey to find the answers. The answers that you perhaps won’t ever find, even if you sold your Ferrari and migrate to the Himalayas. So what do you do? How do you find the answer?

Well, here comes the onion. Let’s say you start peeling off an onion. Layer by layer, peel after peel, you strip away. Hoping it would end somewhere and you might find what lies beneath. And when you are done, you are suddenly faced with emptiness. You are left with nothing but the umpteen layers that you peeled away. Right? Life is like that. We search for a meaning in life. We spend day after day, each passing moment, looking at what is to come. Sooner or later, we stare down the barrel. And in the event, we lose those moments that could have made the difference. For, the essence of life lies in those very moments. Try living life instead, or you may just forget to enjoy your onion dosas. Ironical! Isn’t it? ;)

Yaam petra inbam peruga ivvaiyagam!

Why blogging? Why now? Some may ask – well, forget the asking part, I still want to give you the answer damn it! The second question has a straightforward answer – I got time to kill. And what better way of achieving that high purpose in life than to immerse this whole wide world in the sea of my thoughts? “Yaam petra inbam peruga ivvaiyagam” - Let this world bequeath the pearls of my wisdom. After all, didn’t Socrates do just that? So I choose to put my name alongside the greats! God bless me!

Come to think of it, what is the purpose of life?! Isn’t the purpose to live that very life? Which in its most trivial form is to kill time? Wow, I guess I have inadvertently stumbled upon perhaps the greatest revelation in life that people have been searching for all over the place for ages together! And trust me, this will be an entire blog by itself and that piece might either wake up Socrates from his grave or make him turn at the least.

‘The calling from the inside’ – is what I would like to call the subject matters or rather the content of these blogs. Over the years, this calling has gone unanswered. Not anymore. Or so I hope. I remember those numerous occasions when I wanted to vent out the steam from the conference room or those lobbies lined with cubicles. Those moments when I was at the receiving end of those endless words of advice. What about those life changing ideas that my brain dares to conceive? Or just those colorful pastures of my dream land? Where do I paint them all? Right here in my blogs!! For those who want more variety, don’t you worry, you will get them all.

We sure can associate colors to that calling from the inside, to that inner voice. For some, the green might signify how dear a memory is, the red could highlight the so called profoundness of that thought or the white could speak about the lack of an emotion at that moment. I begin painting my canvas with a mix of colors, and hope to make portraits that one can relate to.

As I sit on the verge of becoming the next big thing in the writing world, I realize its about time I dove in. I do have a penchant for writing you see, which may or may not be much appreciated in this morbid world. But that’s beside the point. After all, it’s my birth right to express my thoughts on anything and everything. And being born in the world’s largest socialist republic, it would be injustice if I don’t give form to that very right. So world, here I come. For now, I can live with your hats, the brick bats be saved!